We hear a lot about using the laws of attraction in every aspect of life. The movie "The Secret", is currently the most watched movie on the planet, despite the fact that it has never been in the regular movie theatres.
While I have been inspired by the movie, and my life was positively impacted, I still struggled to achieve the success I wanted with my business. Some people actually feel depression as a result of understanding the laws of attraction because they still aren't seeing the results they want in their life.
There are additional insights that I have learned from a wonderful mentor and friend who mentored one of the men in "The Secret", and a Joint Ventured with another. He consistently does incredible things outside of his comfort zone and has helped me in countless ways. His list of successes and people whom he has helped is truly extraordinary. My experiences and the insights I have learned from him will assist others who feel "stuck".
In this article, I want to share the first principle that helped me tremendously and in future articles I plan to write on other helpful tips.
The first lesson I really understood and applied was this: If my inner subconscious goals do not align with my outer goals, I will not achieve the success I desire. In closing I will share how this applies to the laws of attraction.
Every year on January 1, millions of people set goals only to fail within a month. Let me give you some examples of why this happens and how it applies to my above statement.
My goal in my home based business was monetary. As a stay home mom, I wanted to be a positive contributor to my family's income. After a few months of making NOTHING, and putting quite a lot of time into it, I was incredibly frustrated. Worse yet, my online business has one of the highest success rates in the industry so I felt quite baffled as to why I was not succeeding.
I began asking myself questions. I tried to avoid adding blame or guilt to my questions as that is counterproductive. My insights were invaluable to me and suddenly my "gap" made sense!
As a child we were quite poor. It was not uncommon for us to be on government assistance. It was embarrassing.
When I finally got my own job, I was nagged into saving money. As a teenager I saved a bit, but I also spent money on clothes trying to "fit in". As a result, money came with a sense of shame that I wasn't doing what I was supposed to be doing with it. I began to have a "failure identity" with money.
Several other events like this came to mind. Suddenly it hit me; money, failure, and pain in relationships were all tangled together in my mind! So, if earning money meant increased pain and failure, then why in the world would I want more of it?
Too often we are afraid to look on the inside to see what is going on because we think of it as psychological babble. But, what is going on subconsciously has a massive impact on our outer life.
There is a well known pro golfer who was "stuck" in his level of playing. After getting some personal coaching, he discovered he had numerous fears of success. He was afraid if he succeeded, he would end up spending too much time away from his family, and that he would be tempted to be with other women, like his father had done to his mother.
The fear was so real, that it had him paralyzed and made him unable to improve his game. After dealing with the fear, he went on to one of the biggest winning streaks in the game of golf.
One final example is one about weight loss. A young woman wanted to lose some excess weight. At the same time she was also looking for a meaningful relationship. After trying everything to lose the weight, she finally sought help.
During the coaching it came out that her father had left her mother while she was very young and it had hurt her deeply. She felt that she would always be abandoned. As a result, the pain of that event was so acute that it was not worth the risk of being hurt again. The pain and fear were stronger than her desire to have a meaningful relationship. Internally, she had a survival goal - to never be hurt like that again. Externally she had an opposite goal, to thrive in a relationship.
When she was able to address her fears, she was also able to lose the weight. After all, the weight was (in her mind) a deterrent to a relationship. It aligned with her inner goal. When she realized what her inner goal was, she no longer needed the weight to hide behind!
Whenever I see a gap between what I say I want and what is actually happening, I can rest assured that there is something on the inside that is not aligning with the outer goal. Sometimes it takes time, questions, or another's insight to help you unravel your inner thought patters.
You will always attract to you what aligns with your inner goals.
I know this principle works: Aligning your inner goals with your outer goals allows your success to come much more readily because instead of attracting into your life things that align with an opposite inner goal, you are now "on the same page" with yourself inside and out!
If have any questions, or would like a listening ear to bounce ideas off of, call me. I am happy to assist in any way I can. I can also get you access to some free pre-recorded life coach sessions that can greatly enhance your success.
To your success in life,
Arla Bornhoft
509.432.9972
arlabornhoft@yahoo.com
http://www.mygreatnewjob.com
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